For example, does your teenage daughter have a computer, tablet, or phone in her room? Is she busy conversing with friends or listening to music and therefore does not want any intrusions? The answer to this question also requires more questions.
You should be prepared for an answer that could range from a polite, honest explanation to an annoyed, offended rant that provides little information. I would advise you to say something like this: “We noticed that you are closing your door more often and requesting more privacy so we just wanted to check in and make sure everything is okay.” The best way to garner the information is simply to ask the question directly. In reality however, we could speculate forever about why your teen daughter is suddenly seeking more privacy. Privacy can become even more important as she notices physical changes. In this particular instance, your teenage daughter is likely in her room as a way to assert more independence and control over her life. It is understandable that you have concerns about the sudden changes a 13-year-old may exhibit, especially having to do with teens and privacy. The transition from tween to teenhood on average begins earlier for girls than boys. The changes in behavior and attitude can seem so drastic for some teens that it can be hard for parents to believe that only a year has passed since 12. It seems to be a year of awakening and exploration for many teens. Teenage Privacy In Middle School: Advice for Parents of Middle Schoolers EXPERT | Jennifer Powell-Lunder, Psy.D.